Sorry to hear about your Mom. (I lost mine in January.) First things first. I wish you the best.
When you get time however, I would love to hear your thoughts regarding the Berkeley Ref and Lampi 7. (Probably my top two contenders.)
Hey Paul..... I will definitely pass along my thoughts on those two, when I get the new Lampi Big 7. It should be here within the next 7 to 10 days. The one quality that struck me with the Lampi was timing cues, a very natural reverberant hall sound, and instrument/singer placement in the soundstage. Having been involved with live music for nearly 30 years, my hair will stand up when this timing is right. I only judge these factors from a live miked recording. I have some such recordings that were made as demos back in the 70's and 80's of jazz and fusion bands in small clubs. If the playback equipment is up to snuff, it can transport you back to that moment.
These are qualities that many may not look for, if their experience is light in intimate music settings. But it certainly can flesh out a realism that is rare to find. We all have different qualities that grab our subjective attention. YMMV.