Big B
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very good idea
What did you give up?
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As with me (and I have been married 3 times, although only my current wife is still alive), and I would have thought that for those of us with an obsession for music and good sound acceptance of that obsession would have been a priority in choosing a life partner.
mep
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Obviously not...
Which is strange (or bizarre, or inexplicable, or...). It does suggest a question to ask those members here who have felt they needed to "give up" their music systems (or a major part of the system); how could you marry someone who doesn't acknowledge and account for the fact that music and good sound reproduction is one of (or) the most important aspects of your personality? Or is it in fact not an important aspect of your personality (and if not why are you here at Audioshark)?
For me this is more than interest in a hobby which may change or disappear completely over time; it has and will continue to be a huge part of my life and enjoyment in life. Apparently some others here feel differently.
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Buckle up Rob.
I’m lucky, live by myself, so no concerns about WAF. That said, the biggest change came after I decided to move from HT\Stereo system and focus on two channels only. Gone are the days of speakers in every corner and every room.
In my mind this doesn't really address the main issue here, which is one partner essentially giving up something very important to him/her, unless in fact it isn't very important, which again raises the question "what are you doing here (at Audioshark)"?
In more discussion with my wife yesterday she suggested the obvious: it really isn't "very important". It could be simply the difference between a hobby and a passion or avocation; it appears that for some of us it is the former, for others the latter.
treitz3
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I looked at it from this standpoint. If I were to get married and a few years/decades down the road, she decided for me that one of my lifelong passions/hobbies needed to go. Well, I could very well do just that. But, foresight told me that I would eventually resent her for it and that resentment would forever linger in my head until we were both 6 feet under. I wouldn't want that.
If you are going to love her, you need to love ALL of her, not just the best snippets about her here and there. Well, the same thing goes for the other way around. Music is, and always has been, a big part of my life. Ever since I heard my uncle Tommy's little ol' tube system when I was a whopping 8 years old, music has played a big part of my life. While change is a constant, there should be a limit as to how far that change should be IMHO. YMMV.
Tom
If you are going to love her, you need to love ALL of her, not just the best snippets about her here and there. Well, the same thing goes for the other way around. Music is, and always has been, a big part of my life. Ever since I heard my uncle Tommy's little ol' tube system when I was a whopping 8 years old, music has played a big part of my life. While change is a constant, there should be a limit as to how far that change should be IMHO. YMMV.
Tom
This makes audiophilia sound more like a hobby for you than a passion
, but that is only my opinion based on very limited information; (when I turned 20 in 1973 I was on my second component audio system with a substantial LP and tape library).
brad225
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I just know I liked music. When we met I had already had 2 sets of McIntosh equipment. Large Advents, Bose 901 and moved on to Klipsch Hersey. Don't remember what turntable.This makes audiophilia sound more like a hobby for you than a passion
mep
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Happy wife happy life is an old myth. The problem is they never stay happy for long.
You stated you live by yourself so this isn't an issue that affects you. If you read some of the stories on this thread, you can see that's not the reality for far too many married audiophiles.
To a certain extent I am just yanking your (and others') chain; everyone here is free to make their own decisions and set their own priorities. It just seems odd to me that posters at a dedicated audiophile forum (many of whom do not seem to have significant financial constraints on their chosen lifestyle) can't find a way to have dedicated listening room with a music system that they are happy with.
Bones13
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Pretty much the same for me, except we met in late 70s. 42 years married, 3 kids, 3 grandkids. My wife listens to more music than I do (well I worked as a surgeon, so I did not always have access), but like todays young, she really does not care about the gear, unless its bad. Now, she does appreciate my system, but I'm not totally sure that is not just to humor me.
The key is adaptability. We moved to Seattle to help our daughter. My new room may be a closet room to listen to headphones only, or it might be a fully renovated basement room. She does know it is important to me, but we are not shaping our lives around my room.
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