Dan: You kinda get the feeling I’ve lived with them for quite some time ?
Joe.......I understand where you are coming from. I have been a tube amp aficionado for over five decades. Yes, I am certifiably old! My very first tube mono amplifiers were a pair of McIntosh MC30 mono tube amps that I bought in 1968. Since then I have owned tube based tuners, preamplifiers, and power amplifier. I can't say they have all been trouble free, but most of the issues were minor, nothing a schematic, a few parts and a soldering iron couldn't repair. Things have improved dramatically with modern tube amplifiers, now sporting protection circuits that shut down an amp in the event of a short at the terminals or a power tube failure. Manual biasing has been made simple with the advent of meters installed on power amplifiers. Some manufacturers have developed sophisticated auto bias circuits that allow you to replace or roll tubes without concern for bias settings.
Power isn't really an issue any longer, either. If you want high power in a tube amplifier, there are quite a few prestigious manufacturers offering some amazingly powerful tube amps, ARC, McIntosh, and VAC to name just a few. The SET crowd will always be shackled to esoteric tubes, low power, and mediocre specification, but they will be quick to point out how wonderful the midrange is. Personally, I prefer full range amplifiers.
Tube availability is not an issue to be worried about. There are quite a few tube manufacturers around the globe making excellent vacuum tubes of all varieties. If NOS is your thing then be prepared to spend some cash for tubes that have taken on transcendental reputations with corresponding prices. Yes, the sources for exotics are drying up, but there are still stashes to be found if one knows where to search and willing to pay.
Yes, test equipment is an essential element to being a tube enthusiast. Modern well designed tube testers are available and should be considered a requirement for those who enjoy tube amplifiers. I have two that get used annually to check the state of the tubes in a preamp and four tube power amps. Knowing the state of your tubes helps avoid future problems, helps to identify problem tubes when an issue comes up, and offers owners peace of mind. Knowledge is power.
Sound variability is not a shortcoming of tubes, it's an asset that can be capitalized on. If an amplifier is the main dish, consider tubes as the spice that brings it all together. Tube rolling is great fun, but it can become addicting and expensive if not held in check by some common sense. Unfortunately, common sense doesn't seem to be so common these days.
You mentioned heat. Yes, tube amplifiers radiate heat, some more than others. Heck, light bulbs radiate heat, sun coming through the window, and your body radiates heat, typically between 250 and 400 BTU's. We are walking furnaces. A room full of people can raise the temperature quickly unless air conditioned. Ventilation is important for tube amps and must be factored in if you wish to play in that world.
And finally, reliability. Tubes are still made by hand. Even with highly skilled assemblers using the finest parts available the occasional tube failure will occur. The same can be said about everything made by the hand of man. Damn near everything fails eventually. Fortunately the overall quality of the more established tube manufacturers is quite good. It is not uncommon to get 4,000 to 5,000 hours from premium power tubes, and between 8,000 to 10,000 hours from small tubes. Think about it. If you listen to music 4 hours a day 7 days a week, you can expect to get approximately 3.4 years of service from power tubes before replacement becomes necessary. Small tubes can last over 5.5 years listening 4 hours a day 7 days a week. That's a lot of listening for a home sound system. When you own tube based audio gear it is always wise to have spare tubes on hand. Buy some each year as the years go by and you will always be prepared when it is time to re-tube your gear. I have about 60 tubes standing by. It makes sense to be prepared. Buying them over time spreads the cost out to where it isn't a big deal.
Then, of course, there's the sound, that glorious tube sound that creates such accurate and believable musical timbre, fully fleshed male and female voices, strings and brass reproduction to die for. There is much to enjoy from tube amplification. Yes, it is a bit more involved and eccentric than simply placing a solid state integrated amp on the shelf and calling it a day. Only you can decide if the commitment to the sublime musical experience of tube gear is worth it. I'm in, but don't misunderstand, I also enjoy solid state amplifiers. I have owned and enjoyed my fair share of them, too.