Need Legal Advice or Opinion

Mechnutt

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Hi, I need a legal opinion on a situation that my 30 year old daughter is going through. Last month she reluctantly moved in with her boyfriend who pressured her to. She moved out 2 weeks later. He owns an exotic car rental business and a bike rental business. He pulls in about $100K per month. He told her he would pay for everything, rent and bills as she is a nurse and paying back $600 per month in student loans. She broke up with him because a few days after she moved in he turned into a Narcissistic predator. He told her he didn't want to going out with friends and did not like the fact that she talked to us or texted us frequently as we live in MN and she in Denver. He would not even let her watch what she wanted to on tv. In addition he became petty about minor things. He seems bipolar as he would be nice one minute and then abusive the next.

Well, the issue is that she let him buy some things with her credit card but behind her back he put about $1100 in uber fee's for his business on her card that she did not know about. He is unwilling to pay her back. His issue is that a few weeks ago while they were still a couple they went out to dinner in his Audi R8 and a car parked too close to the passenger door. When she got in the car, her door tapped the other car causing and extremely small paint chip on the Audi. At the time it was no big deal to him. Now he wants $3K for fix the door and he will not pay her the money owed on her credit card. He is being vindictive which is strange because the break up was amicable.

My question here is, is she liable for the damage to the fkg car? I texted him and told him that what he did with her credit card with uber is fraud and that I will go to the police if he does not pay her back and drop the car issue. Otherwise I am going to talk to the Police Fraud division in Denver.

This guy is 35 and a real prick and a predator. I just want to fly out there and kick his ass but I am going to go the legal route. Ideally I want him arrested for fraud and theft. Lets see how a felony or misdemeanor looks on his resume.

Any legal opinions would be much appreciated.

Best Regards,

Larry
 
Larry,

First off all I am very sorry to hear of the trouble you are facing. The fact that you decided to bring it up on here is an indication of how difficult this must be for you. However before you decide to go the legal route I would suggest you take a softer approach first. Knowing our kids these days you have to realize that there are always two sides to a story and as much as we love our kids we have to be aware of their own misgivings as well.

Not saying that anything about the ex-boyfriend is right but I would recommend giving him a chance. The problems you have described are of the type that are common with young couples and barring any physical abuse I would still suggest reaching out to him in a reasonable manner and sorting things out.

I hope that this will all work out.

Regards.
 
Larry,

I’m so sorry to read about your daughter’s situation. For someone pulling in that kind of money, he’s being an ahole treating her like that. He’s going out of his way torturing her for what is essentially chump change to him.

Shouldn’t insurance take care of the car door? She needs to get the heck away from him. Maybe you/she can ask her credit card company for advice re: the charges?
 
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I have tried talking to him and he won't answer. I did text him a few times and I was very nice and non threatening except for the last text where I told him I would talk to the police and the credit card company.

I don't know whose insurance company will cover the cost of his car. I suspect it is his. My daughter is not even sure if she caused the scratch or chip in the paint.
 
Larry,

I’m so sorry to read about your daughter’s situation. For someone pulling in that kind of money, he’s being an ahole treating her like that. He’s going out of his way torturing her for what is essentially chump change to him.

Shouldn’t insurance take care of the car door? She needs to get the heck away from him. Maybe you/she can ask her credit card company for advice re: the charges?


Yes he is an ahole. He a a Narcissistic, Machiavellian Sociopath. I am going to talk to a Detective today.

The guy just signed a contract with a bicycle company as he is a pro cyclist. I wonder how they would like it if they knew he is an abuser of women and committed theft, fraud and blackmail.
 
After your daughter is away from him, have her open a fraud claim with the credit card company and hope for the best.
Then both you and your daughter do your best to move on. Unfortunately little is to be gained by dwelling on this.
Further pursuit is more than likely futile.
 
Hi Larry, sorry for the situation.

As David mentioned, I would contact the credit card company for fraud or chargeback since your daughter didn't make the charge. And, ignore the claim on the car. Seems like if the bang was hard enough to chip paint the other car would have some damage, even if discolored paint.

Maybe some levity, you know I don't see well, I bought an old golf club at a charity yard sale, I think it was a woody. So I got a T and some balls, hit a few off the edge of the patio into the back yard. There's an empty lot behind my back yard, tehn the next street. I connected with one of those balls, it clears the yard, the lot and pings off a guy's truck. So he asks if I want to come over and see his truck, we walk over, he begins to point out a dent where he says the ball hit. I'm like out of all those dents how do you know which one was from my ball, LOL. He was being a bit of a jerk, I know I did wrong. Luckily, it just ended with a stare down and I never saw him again.

I hit balls into the back yard quite a bit, I was so shocked when that one went sailing. Needless to say, I retired golf that day.
 
Thanks for all the support:)

Good news, the piss ant paid my daughter. I guess he got scared when I told him that I talked to a Fraud detective and that we were going to report credit card fraud to the company.
 
good news, hopefully she will learn her lesson and have better judgement next time.
 
It is good that you got this matter resolved. But it is even better that your daughter decided to get away from this fellow early on. Hopefully a lesson was learned from all this.
 
This guy had us all fooled. He comes from a great family and checked all the boxes until my daughter moved in with him. He was kind, respectful and generous. My wife and I met him and did not see any red flags. Unfortunately, he is going to do this to other women. I would love to tattoo him as a predator like the girl in the movie "The girl with the dragon tattoo" did to the guy that raped her.

I feel terrible for my daughter. She is gorgeous, well educated and intelligent with a good job (Nurse with a 4 year RN degree). She is a hard worker and has won several nursing awards of excellence in just 2 years. She has an outgoing cheerful, fun, infectious personality and can talk to anyone. She is a work out fanatic in great shape and very adventuresome when it comes to trying new things. Unfortunately, she can't meet a guy that has a good job or any ambition. And the guys she meets have no interest in committed long term relationships. She needs to leave Denver and move back to the Twin Cities.
 
Damn, if I were only 20+ years younger, 6 inches taller and in shape, I’d have a chance :)

I’m sure she’s wonderful and not just because she’s your daughter. I hope she can find happiness.
 
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