As to the first one, I'm not familiar with the Steve Hoffman forum. However, to me it sounds like that person could be lamenting that they could not afford a system such as the one they have on loan and feels upset about it in some way. It could be that perhaps seeing or experiencing the end goal so soon proved to be the opposite of what they had in mind. It could be something else entirely. If the focus is on the recordings themselves, then I consider it a good thing perhaps. (I too experienced the same when I got my Paradigms. Even on my lackluster Onkyo CDP there were discs that sounded good before and then were horrid with the new speakers, fortunately, not a lot. I've since run into a couple more with the new CDP, but only a couple thank goodness. Still plenty of CDs to enjoy for me). So I understand where he is coming from at that point.
As to the second one, I have read most of that thread. This is a somewhat different scenario in my mind. In this case it seems to be that the person is pursuing something unattainable by natural counts, that something is perfection. Granted “perfection” is different for each of us, so that means that the person is chasing their tail so to speak. This is a trap most all audiophiles and non-audiophiles alike can easily fall into. (It happens more often with audiophiles). Being a non-audiophile myself, I have almost fallen into this trap once.
This person in scenario two is not listening to music. That’s part of the trap. They are listening for flaws in gear on a consistent basis. They are over-analyzing it all and getting in their own way, thus not allowing themselves to ever be satisfied. They are not letting the gear do it’s job. Twenty-five years of trying gear is a long time and an enormous amount of gear. It sounds to me like this person has not given any appropriate amount of time to let the gear do it’s job, almost sounds like they listen for 10 to 20minutes and move on. That’s a very short period of time even over a one year span.
So frustrated has this person become that they desire to chuck it all away and settle for something they know they will hate instead of putting something together from what they considered the best pieces and just enjoy it. The problem is that they are in such a trap now that they cannot decipher what they like. This is a result of not spending time listening to music on the gear they have at the time and becoming familiar with it. Its also the result of a pursuit of desperation (keeping up with the joneses, being the first adopter, etc),instead of enjoyment.
That’s what I make of it anyway. Only my opinion.
(My personal approach is to always let the music play.Let the music and your ears dictate the gear. If you can feel the music when it plays then you have the right gear, simple as that. When you can’t feel the music or when you stop feeling it, first check yourself and if that checks out then a change in gear may be in order. For me, it took 20 years before I stopped feeling the music and discovered a change in speakers was in order. After that, I was satisfied until my CDP started acting wonky, then the solution was obvious. Thanks to Joe here, I now have the best CDP I’ve ever had and heard and my CDs have astonishing new life. I nearly fell into “the trap” beyond rope or ladder depth when I started to pursue vinyl again on my main system. I just recently pulled myself out by deciding to use the more appropriate gear to play vinyl which for me, is my vintage system).
I think Spock said it well: “After a time, you may find that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true.”